Today, in the final installment, I want to talk briefly about a limiting belief -- those psychological chains that bind us to certain behaviors -- that haunts many people, without them even knowing it.
Limiting Belief Number #3: "People will judge me if I fail."
This one is the toughest to admit to, but it’s quite common: the anxiety of displaying your failure to the world and facing the judgment of others. Maybe this is why you constantly self-sabotage, or kid yourself into thinking you don't really want that dream body.
If you feel this fear, you’re not alone. We have all been there at some point in our lives. The fear of public embarrassment is a potent, stubborn, and crippling fear that can infiltrate numerous areas of your life -- and especially health and fitness.
Simply put, if you try something and get an unwanted outcome, it is not a failure. Instead, it is a data point.
An unwanted outcome is not a failure. It is a data point.
Input, output. That’s how fitness works. If the output isn’t what you expected, that’s a piece of information, nothing more. It tells you that whatever process you followed did not produce the desired result. From there, the only course of action is to move on and take a new approach. Just make sure you, (1) give your approach enough time to produce a measurable result, and (2) adhere faithfully to its principles.
Whatever you do, give it a disciplined try, and throw out the word “failure.”
There is no such thing as failure, only valuable information and the opportunity for continual growth.
And remember this: your naysayers face the same fears you do, probably worse.
Here's a final thought -- a plot twist of sorts. What if you're not afraid of failing in front of your friends and family? What if you're afraid of succeeding?
How many of your friends, coworkers, and/or relatives struggle with their health or weight? How many of them have tried to change things, but so far have not been successful? Do they have an empowered mindset or a victim mindset?
What would it mean to them if you tried to change your life and succeeded?
Would they maybe even judge you? Assume that you think you're better than them?
Would you cease to fit in?
Think deeply on those questions. There will not be a straightforward answer or a simple solution, but just asking the question itself can be illuminating and freeing. Here's what I know for a FACT: happiness and fulfillment have nothing to do with what other people think of you. It is an irrelevant variable. Strike it from the equation.
Over the past few weeks I've outlined a few very common limiting beliefs surrounding health and fitness, but there are many more. What have your experiences been? Which do you face? Get in touch and let me know how I help you rise up.